Life’s biggest stressors, the ones that we all fear and will experience at one time or another in our lives, can cause havoc in our lives. They can change our perception of the world and our identity forever. If we learn to look at things differently, they can make us stronger. Let me explain. . .
Stress, as we all know, is an inevitable part of human life. One that many of us would prefer to eliminate. Stress can be more common in some people than in others. This is due to our temperaments, personality traits and how we have been taught (directly or indirectly) how to deal with difficult situations. Some people are naturally more resilient than others, while some are more sensitive to stress and more reactive to it.
The good news? Although we cannot undo our natural wiring, studies show that we can take steps that improve our resilience.
Top 10 Stressors in Your Life
Before we talk about how to improve resilience and deal with stressors, it is important that we first understand what they are. Here are the top ten stressors that can affect your life.
1. Death of a loved one
This is the most difficult event that we all experience. We can feel many emotions when someone close to us passes away and it can be difficult to find our place in the world.
Grief can be a difficult process and is not for everyone. It takes patience, understanding, compassion, and self-compassion to cope with the death of a loved one.
2. Divorce or Separation
Separation or divorce can be emotionally devastating for many reasons. Many people feel powerless, confused, betrayed, and betrayed. Re-establishing your identity in this world can be as difficult as losing a loved one.
3. Moving, buying, or selling a home
Moving, whether it’s for financial reasons, to taking on a loan (sometimes the first), or being in a new environment, can cause stress. It is so stressful that 40% of Americans believe that buying a home is the most stressful thing they have ever done.
4. Major Injury or Illness
These life-changing events can have a variety of negative consequences. The ability to make a living, and how we have become accustomed to contributing to society can all be questioned.
5. Job loss
It can be difficult to lose a job, especially in a country where people ask you the first question you answer when you meet someone is “What do I do?”
Losing your job can have a negative impact on your ability to provide for yourself and your family. It can increase our anxiety and create uncertainty about the future.
While stress can be a good thing, marriage is often a difficult adjustment. It can be difficult to learn to live with another person and to accept the responsibilities and expectations that come with being a married couple.
7. Increased financial obligations and decisions involving money
Financial burdens and big money decisions can lead to deep insecurity and fear.
Feeling trapped at work and feeling like you must be on an upward mobility track in order to meet financial obligations can make anyone sleepy.
Retirement is another stressor that can be considered “fun”, in the sense many people plan their lives to retire when they are ready.
This is a significant life change for those who do. It can be difficult to realize that you are now in the second half your life when you are on a higher income.
9. Caring for an elderly or sick family member
It is both emotionally and physically draining. The toll it can have on people is immense. Many caregivers have to take on more responsibility, sometimes 24 hours a day, and this leaves them vulnerable to many physical and emotional issues.
10. Traumatic Event (Natural Disasters, Crime, Violence or Pandemics)
While there are many challenges that could fall under this umbrella, it seems that the most important issue is the feeling of powerlessness.