How to Have a RealistiLife Balance?

What is a life balance and why is it important?

Wayne Dyer: “Getting in Balance isn’t about changing your behaviours. It is about realigning your thoughts and creating a balance between your desires and your daily life.”

You can call your life balanced when every area is exactly how it should be.

You can, for example, give your children and family enough time, be flexible with work, enjoy the beauty of nature and keep your mind and body healthy.

Life balance can also refer to the inability to maintain a healthy balance. This happens when you have a difficult lifestyle that causes stress, insomnia, poor nutrition , and constant health problems.

It is important to ask: Why should we have a life balance?

A synchronized life balance is essential if you are to respect your body, mind and soul. A healthy life balance will ensure that your mental and physical health is maintained. A good life balance will ensure that you have enough sleep, are able to spend time with friends and family, and be happier internally.

Things can go south when you push yourself beyond your limits and try to please everyone all the time. Do not try to do too much. Accept your limitations and take the first step towards life balance. This is simplifying your life and creating a routine that suits your needs and limits.

The mystery of work-life balance

People who try to balance work and personal life by splitting their time between work and personal are actually dividing themselves.

People often think of work and life as one and the same. They are forced to choose between them. This framework shows that a gain on one side will always result in a loss on another.

People start to see work as something they don’t do. They see ‘work’ as something they have to do until they can switch off. If you make work a negative and painful experience, while living a life that is not balanced, then there will be no joy.

You can find a job that is both enjoyable and helps you balance your work life. There is no perfect job. Every job has its perks and pitfalls. You’ll soon find yourself stuck in the same ‘life versus work’ situation because you haven’t changed the old structure.

Signs that your life might be out of balance

“The more that you turn down invitations to spend time at home with family or friends because you are too busy with work, the more you will realize that your life has fallen out of balance.” -Byron Pulsifer

There are many signs that your life is out of balance.

1. Your Health is deteriorating or going down the drain

Research shows that 77% of employees have experienced burnout at work. 72% seek out work-life balance in choosing a job.

Your health can be affected by trying to manage your personal and professional life beyond your ability. You might have health problems such as high blood pressure fluctuations, stomach upsets, anxiety, depression, and so on.

2. You can only prioritize one aspect of your life

Harmony in all areas of your life is the key to finding balance. You must make sure you have enough time for everyone, whether it is your family, friends, or work. If you notice that you are spending too much on one aspect of your life, it is a sign that you are losing balance.

It could indicate a poor life balance if you spend more time at work but have little time to spend with your family. Perhaps you are more concerned with answering work emails than spending time with your family.

3. Your Daily Routine Doesn’t Include Healthy Foods

Poor nutrition is caused by a lack of synchronization in your life. Even after work, you might skip meals or eat unhealthy foods. This could be a sign that you have failed to prioritize your health above all else. If you notice that you are not eating healthy meals, it is a sign that something is wrong.

4. You Are Unhappy

If all is well, why don’t you feel happy? It doesn’t feel right! Correct?

It is a sign that your life is not in harmony. This means that your life balance is disrupted and you are out-of-synch. A balanced life would lead to happiness.

How to achieve a work-life harmony

The real goal is to distribute the positive (+) as well as negative (-) equally throughout life.

To make up for negative work experiences, most people try to be positive at work.

The work performance can be affected if it is all negative at work, and all positive when it is turned off. This will create more negativity. They will look to their off-mode life to find happiness. However, they won’t be able achieve true happiness if they don’t face problems at work.

Some people, however, strive to bring positivity into work. This is how their work-life balance looks:

If these people continue to live in the old on/off paradigm, all negative emotions will shift to their off mode self and they will have a difficult time sustaining their relationships and their health.

Gregory is an example of such a person.

Gregory is the CEO and founder of a startup. Gregory loves what he does and is passionate about it. His business grew over the past year, and he has gained more fame and wealth. He was so busy with his work that he didn’t have the time to take care of himself.

He had trouble sleeping, felt constantly stressed and was suffering from constant stomachache and back pain due to stress. These health problems even began to impact his work performance.

Gregory took the Life Assessment and found that his sole focus was on his job. He neglected his health and other areas of his life. His body was telling him to change his routine.

However, there are very few people who experience happiness on both ends of the equation. This is how they balance work and life.

Imagine that you are one of the few people who can experience positive energy from both sides. You make up 5% of the population. Here are the steps for the remaining 95% to achieve a realistic work/life balance.

Find the Unified Self and Recover Your Senses

Recovering a sense of unity within yourself is the solution. You can do this by regaining your sense of unity and letting go of the conflicting work/life binary. Your life will be more enjoyable and you will stop labeling work and life as’suffering’.

For a sense of unity, ask yourself why you do the things that you do in your life and at work.

Answering this question will create your blueprint for a unified you, which is charged with meaning and connected to who you are.

Your blueprint can be used to evaluate your personal and professional lives. The new framework does not emphasize ‘balance’, but rather ‘alignment.

These will show you many things.

  1. There are some aspects of your job that aren’t suffering. Look again and you’ll see many positive aspects that reflect the things you care about. You may be able to see the value in creativity every day at work.
  2. The things you care about at work are the same as those you care about in your personal life. For example, friendship may be a value in your life. You also share this value to your coworkers. You can be your true self by expressing your values in all of your interactions.
  3. Your work and your personal life both support and enhance one another: You can show the same generosity to your friends and build good client relationships at work. You can use your work-related resourcefulness to overcome obstacles in your personal and professional life.

You will never have to use the traditional on/off model of work again, as you are always acting in accordance with what you value. You’ll notice that your positive energy won’t be affected by draining or overflowing. Instead, it will flow continuously through your entire being in a positive feedback loop.

Gregory signed up for a program after realizing the importance of changing his daily habits. He enrolled in the Full Life Framework Program.

Gregory began to see the value of living a full and fulfilled life with the help of my team. He learned to prioritize his needs and reorganize his calendar. He made sure he was able to devote enough time to his own self-care and exercise. He also began to do home workouts to strengthen his muscles and relieve back pain with the help of the Busy But Fit Program. He learned to take care of himself even when he was stressed at work. Since then, he has had better sleep and a happier body and mind.

Gregory will eventually be able to maintain a work-life balance.

A renewed conception of balance and alignment can be a powerful inner transformation, no matter what your current circumstances.

It may also reveal the extent of your suffering at work. Now you can unravel your blueprint and identify the root cause of the negativity. You can either reaffirm why you are doing what you are doing or make changes to your job.

You can still find positivity even in difficult situations until you get a new job. Although you may not like your daily tasks, you still value providing for your family. So you are motivated to make sure you do that every day.

If you are a workaholic, your blueprint might reveal that the things you thought were ‘off-mode’ (relaxing and having fun, following a passion, spending quality time with friends and family) actually contain a wealth value that supports and enhances a balanced working life.

To find out how balanced you are, complete the Life Assessment and receive a personalized report.

 Tips to Help You Create a Balanced Life

You will find happiness in every aspect of your life if you have a fulfilling, synchronized work-life balance.

Balance is not better time management but better boundary management. Balance is making choices and enjoying them.” – Betsy Jacobson

It is not possible to achieve work-life harmony overnight. However, it is possible to put in the effort to find a healthy balance.

These are the steps you can follow to get started:

1. Get up early to start your day

To restore balance in your life, you should be a morning person. You can plan ahead by getting up earlier in the morning. Instead of jumping right into your day, plan each step by getting up earlier.

Start small: Although getting up at a good hour early can seem daunting, you can start by getting up earlier than usual.

2. Establish clear priorities

It is easier to make decisions when you have clear priorities. It is easier to decide who is most important and what values you want to put your focus with your goals. You will change and evolve your priorities. This is perfectly normal.

A newly-minted lawyer may agree to work sixty hours per week in order to gain experience. However, a senior professional has the experience and confidence to say no and allow them to spend their time with their families or their hobbies.

Clear priorities will help you and your team succeed. Clear priorities can help maximize your success and that of your team. [3]

3. Do not forget to prioritize your health

Although your health might not be your first thought when you wake up in the morning, it is important to think about your health. To create a balanced life, your health must be at the forefront of your mind. This could mean exercising, eating well, and meditating.

Make a healthy food schedule that is most convenient for you.

4. You should be focusing on results, not time spent

Instead of thinking about how hard you can work, instead focus your energy and time on getting bigger results. You can live a happier, more balanced life by simplifying your focus areas.

It is easy to get caught up in the trap of doing too many activities, which drains your energy and takes away from your ability to build momentum for your business. It is easy to get pulled in many directions, not enough time, and take on too many tasks. You can feel exhausted, anxious, and uncommunicative at night.

Remember getting more done doesn’t mean doing anything great .

Focusing on a small number of projects will result in greater achievement, confidence, and motivation. You may also have more time to spend quality time with people who matter.

The 80/20 Rule: This rule says that 20% of our efforts are responsible for 80% of our success. Prioritize the most important priorities to achieve greater results.

5. Let go of fear

Many people worry about whether they are entrepreneurs, business owners, managers, or leaders. They may lose out on important opportunities if they don’t work or appear to be working every day.

They may lose their business or not receive the promotion they want. There is always something. You have the feeling that bad things could happen if you don’t invest enough time. Or, “I could always work on something else.”

What if you believe that you are worthy, capable of achieving meaningful goals, and that your efforts are worthwhile?

Having that belief and confidence will allow you to let go of fear and worry about the future.

This guide can help you overcome irrational fears and thoughts.

6. Know when to say no

To maintain perfect work-life harmony, must be able to say “no”.

Your reputation and chances of getting promoted or better opportunities will slowly erode if you continue to say no to management. A thoughtful no shows that you have considered your priorities and are willing to say no.

Only say no to work when it is absolutely necessary. This is a skill that you can learn over time. You can choose to give up on the weekend project that your boss has asked you to do if you feel you need to be more focused on managing stress.

7. Know that the balance changes daily

You often imagine a world where work-life balance is perfect. You may not be able achieve these hours every week.

Corporate accountants, for example, often work long hours in the month-end. Plan to fulfill your commitments if you know that you will be working long hours during certain times of year. You may need to reevaluate your work habits if you’ve just finished ten weeks of 60-hour work.

It is important to find balance every day, but not to get stressed out if you feel a little off.

8. Do not measure value with “Face Time”.

If your workplace is not based on a billable hours model, simply adding more hours to your workday does not result in more value. Parkinson’s Law states that adding more time to your workday can cause you to lose focus. [5] You may think you can log in on Facebook “just a few seconds” because you can always make up the lost time later.

For a high income, you need to have work experience, education, or specialization. It doesn’t matter if you work more hours, or if your work is of lesser value. Good time management skills will help you make the most of your office time and increase the value of your work.

9. Make a chart

A chart can be a great way to plan your day. It will help you decide how much time to spend on family, work, friends, and so forth. This would help you to identify areas that need time-blocking and breaks.