How to Get Your Life Together When You Feel Overwhelmed?

I have been there and wondered how to make my life better. It is not difficult to see how overwhelmed we are all in the face of global pandemics and natural disasters as well as political challenges, economic downturns and family drama. It is enough to make anyone want to throw up their hands and crawl into bed until 2030. But every storm comes to an end and you’re strong enough to weather it.

Overwhelmed feelings can make it seem like everything is too difficult. Simply put, it is a feeling that your emotions are too strong. Overwhelm can be either general or situational.

Situational overwhelm refers to a specific set of circumstances. For example, if you have a large project at work and are unsure if it will be successful, or if your promotion is in jeopardy. General overwhelm refers to the daily pressures of being present for others and yourself. It doesn’t matter what type of overwhelm you experience, it can be very difficult.

Everybody gets overwhelmed at times. However, overwhelm does not have to stop you from moving forward or cause you to fall into a downward spiral. These tips will help you navigate the treacherous waters of overwhelm.

1. Slow it down

When you feel overwhelmed or overwhelmed, the first thing to do is to slow down. It’s like an alarm. Your body and spirit want to alert you to something very important. You must slow down in order to process all the information and evaluate what is going on.

Your best tool to slow down your breathing is the breath. Your breath has incredible power. Because the nervous, respiratory, and circulatory systems are interconnected, any manipulation of your breath will directly affect your blood pressure and emotional state.

It can help to slow down your overwhelm by taking three deep, slow breaths while you’re in it. Check out the video below for some more stress-relieving techniques.

It is almost like you are allowing yourself to slow down your thinking. This is a way to force yourself to be present for how you feel and think in the moment.

Overwhelm can be overwhelming and chaotic. But if you slow down the process , you will regain control. Talk to the people in your circle of support and share your worries. This will allow you to slow down and take a step back.

2. Take a step back, reflect, and reframe

You may be wondering how to put your life back together. It’s time for you to take a step back and look at what caused the overwhelm. These are some good questions to ask:

Am I putting too much on my plate Who can I turn to if this is the case? What can I do now?

  • Are I sufficiently prepared? What can I do to be prepared? What are the obstacles to my preparation?
  • Are there any signs that I didn’t see that would have prevented me from reaching this point?
  • Do you think there is any self-sabotage?
  • What is the most important thing that I can do now to help me reach my long-term goals and personal development?

Reflection is great as it allows you to sort through all the information you have received. Taking the time to decipher these data will help you better understand your body’s messages in the future, if you feel the same sensations again.

It is particularly helpful to use reflective journaling. It involves describing an experience, then interpreting it and then analyzing the lessons learned .

It is important to have a reference point for overwhelming situations before it happens. It will not feel like an incoming tornado siren but rather like a pre-emptive, early warning system.

When you have gathered, processed and reflected on data, reframing is when you can place the experience in an entirely new perspective.


I remember thinking that failing the bar exam was the worst thing that could happen to me. The thought of having spent $140,000 on loans meant that I would never be able pay my bills, get a good job, or live the life I wanted. My body was weak and tired and my mind was filled with negative thoughts. I was unsure of what I should do to bring my life back together.


But, once I allowed myself to slow down, take a step back and reflect, it became clear that I hated being a lawyer. Although it took some time, I was able reframe the experience as a blessing and identify my true calling: helping others achieve their goals.

Focus on your short-term goals, and the small steps that you can take to make your life better. Your life will become easier as you grow and improve your mental and physical health.

3. Release, Regroup and Redirect


Although it’s not easy to do, let go when you are overwhelmed. It’s much easier to let go of overwhelm by taking the time to slow down, take a step back, reflect and reframe.

After I allowed myself to reframe the failing bar, I was free to let it go without regret. This is the key component of “getting my life together”.


Regrouping and redirecting are key to putting your life back together. Your progress was halted by overwhelm. Once the overwhelm is gone, you can put your chain back on its cogs and go back to work.

Regrouping is essential because it helps you close the feedback loop for all the slowing down and stepping back. It’s like a metaphorical time on the sentence of your lived experience. You can hit the reset button and move forward with all that you know.


Redirecting is the final act. It will be much easier to identify your new path if you’ve done all the work that you did before this moment. Redirecting doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to move in a completely new direction. Even if your trajectory has changed slightly, it’s still okay!

It is important that you have integrated and processed your overwhelm to be better prepared for future overwhelm, and better equipped to prevent it from happening again.

Last Thoughts

All of us have felt overwhelmed at times and wondered how we could get our lives back on track. Your progress does not have to be halted by the difficulties in your life or the toxic people around you.